This blog post was developed from information shared during our webinar, Meeting Resistance to Care with Compassion.
While there is no magic solution for resistance to care, there are strategies that reduce its intensity and frequency. The most effective approaches focus on a compassionate responses like communication, preparation, and support—for both caregiver and loved one.
One of the simplest and most powerful tools is how you communicate. Approach your loved one at eye level. Make eye contact. Use a calm, warm tone. Begin with reassurance before making a request. A smile and a gentle greeting can make all the difference.
Keep requests simple and singular. One step at a time. Instead of giving instructions that involve multiple actions, break tasks down into manageable pieces. This reduces confusion and the frustration that often leads to resistance.
Tracking behavioral patterns is another essential strategy. Keeping a simple log of when resistance occurs, what was happening beforehand, and how intense it was provides invaluable information for healthcare providers. This documentation can guide decisions about medication, routines, and environmental changes.
Many families supported by Skylark Senior Care find that having professional guidance makes a profound difference. Care teams help families identify triggers, build routines, and develop personalized care strategies that honor both safety and dignity.
Speaking of medication—many caregivers hesitate to consider it. While medication is not the answer for every situation, dementia is a brain-based disease, and behavioral symptoms sometimes require medical intervention. Being open to discussion with a knowledgeable clinician can significantly improve quality of life for everyone involved.
Equally important is respite and support. Caregiving without breaks is unsustainable. Adult day programs, support groups, and trusted care partners provide not just relief, but enrichment and social connection for the person living with dementia.
Finally, caregivers must give themselves permission to let go of perfection. Some days, the best choice is ice cream instead of a bath. Peace instead of productivity. Love instead of logic.
Meeting resistance to care with compassion does not mean giving up—it means choosing connection over conflict. With education, support, and grace, caregivers can navigate this journey with greater confidence, resilience, and hope.
